Positives in saying No? Are there positives in saying No? Because it feels like No has got No positives at all except in cases when a person who tested for HIV/AIDS gets a negative, funny right?
In this article, we will carefully look at some key areas in our lives that the word NO must and should be the only correct response to give.
The Word NO for me is one of the most interesting words in my dictionary because it affects everything that has to do with your relationship with people and your self-worth or self-confidence.
Are there really positives in saying no? You may want to ask but the truth remains that saying No has got lots of positives because it helps you take a stand and a firm stand on issues and decisions.
There are two types of responses you get, it’s either an approval or disapproval which in simple term means you either get a Yes or a NO.
Motivational speakers around the world have dealt terribly with the Word NO because of their concept of not allowing negativity into your heart and life. They tell you to insist until you get a YES because of what you will get from the other person and that is in itself may be very selfish and inconsiderate of what the other person wants or needs.
We are looking at when to say NO, how to Say NO and the overall positives in saying no.
The Positive In Saying No And No Doesn’t Connote Negativity Alone
Settle this in your heart as you begin to learn how to say No; saying No doesn’t reflect negativity alone, and it doesn’t also mean you have been rejected too.
No is just another way of getting what you want from people and only strong people really know how to use the word NO because they know the positives in saying No and they will never mind to use it when it is necessary.
It is ok to say the word NO because NO is a very accurate part of communication which helps to protect your personal self-esteem and confidence in the eyes of the people that is involved in the discussion or those your response affects.
But the real issue in saying NO is the timing, (when to say NO) because the timing must be right which brings us to How to say NO and Why must we say NO.
When Should We Say No?
The first to do before saying No is to reflect on your personal elasticities which means your limits and how much more can you take? Will my conscience allow for more or can I take more of it? Saying NO is alright but it must be the answer you give after a thought through process has been done and after analyzing every bit of information because when you say No, you have just passed a strong message.
The positives in saying No are affected by the timing which is knowing when to say No and this is directly connected to your own philosophies, your culture, and your unique personal preferences about any and everything.
When you understand yourself and you know what you want or what is expected of you, you will definitely know when to say No.
Your personality type affects the frequencies of you saying No because you know your limit or your boundaries.
Checklist On Positives Of When To Say No
Do you remember how many times you said yes when you were supposed to have said No and how you regretted your decision to have said yes?
Am I willing to leave my comfort zone?
My awareness of my capacities and abilities if I said yes.
Am I being taken advantage of by this request?
How To Say No To Show Positivity?
People get offended easily and no matter what you do people will always be people which means that they will always want to be at the advantaged position.
So it is important to know how to say No to a whole lot of things and you will still be at peace with yourself because our conscience is the greatest judge of all.
There are lots of positives in saying No but the how to say No is very important because you have to carry those who you say No to along and make them see things from your point of view.
Checklist On The Positives of How To Say NO
Be Polite And calm When Saying No:
You don’t want to be seen as arrogant and proud or like you have the capacity to say yes but ego won’t allow you.
Show That You Understand What Is Expected of You:
Explain in clear terms that you understood what is on ground and you know what is expected of you.
Do Not Give Unnecessary Hopes:
Do all you can and do not give false hopes that you may be able to do something later but be firm and do not be blunt when saying No.
When You Need To Be Blunt:
There are times you just need to be blunt about it when you have tried to make those involved that you understood what is expected but you still can’t do what is required. Or when the request has a negative impact on your belief and core values. At this stage, you have to be blunt. Examples: No I can’t afford this, No I will not do it, No it is not just possible for me.
Examples of how to say No:
I am sorry but won’t be able to help out now.
At this time, I am not able to help, just maybe at another time.
Sorry, this won’t be possible.
No, I can’t do that, please understand.
Why You Should Say NO
There are lots of positives in saying No and it is quite important that we emphasize on why we need to say No.
You say No when it is beyond your abilities.
You say No because you do not want to feel used or hurt.
You say No when it is the right answer to give at that time.
You say No because you do not want to put yourself under undue pressure.
This article has emphasized on the when, how and why saying No is the right response to give sometimes.
Emotions and mental weakness might just be the only reasons why someone will compromise his/her happiness just to please another because of how bad the other person will feel.
So, it is imperative that there must be a balance to the things we do and I am sure that this article has done just that.